“Toni” Morrison (born Chloe Ardelia Wofford; February 18, 1931 – August 5, 2019) was 
an African-American novelist, essayist, editor, teacher, and professor emeritus at Princeton University. Her first novel, The Bluest Eye, was published in 1970. The critically acclaimed Song of Solomon (1977) brought her national attention and won the National Book Critics Circle Award. In 1988, she won the Pulitzer Prize and the American Book Award for Beloved.
“There is really nothing more to say-except why. But since why is difficult to handle, one must take refuge in how.”
As we all learn early in life, sometimes bad things happen to good people. It is hard to come to 
terms with that when it happens to us or someone we love.
The only thing we can really do is try to learn from the circumstance. I think this is what Toni Morrison is talking about when she says to take refuge in the ‘how’.
I honestly believe that life is just one learning experience after another. If we spend too much time in the ‘why’ or ‘why me’ position, we are not learning the lesson in the situation.
Personally, I spent too much time in the ‘why’ mode in my life. It wasn’t until I change my thinking to ‘how’ that I learned to enjoy life!
I would like to share this last Inspiring quote from Toni Morrison: